I recently had the opportunity to interview a very talent writer and poet for my blog. Please welcome George Pappas author of the book “Monogamy Sucks”.
George Pappas is Los Angeles-based novelist, blogger, poet and lyricist. Lazy Day Publishing is released his second novel of erotic fiction Monogamy Sucks as an e-book on Dec. 1, 2010. Pappas launched the first six chapters of his novel on his blog in summer 2010 after more than 12 years of writing and researching his work. His novel explores intriguing notions about monogamy, relationships, casual sex and the world of swinging.
Pappas is a lifelong resident of southern California and has been writing fiction since he was 15. When he’s not writing, Pappas enjoys traveling, music, reading his favorite novelists Henry Miller and Anais Nin, watching films, exploring life’s many adventures and pleasures, and living near the ocean.
1) Are you a poet or writer by nature?
I’ve always been creative and wanted to tell stories for as long as I could remember.
So I guess you could say I am a writer by nature. I write novels, short stories, poems, but I think of myself primarily as a novelist.
2) Do you write at home?
Well, I write at home a lot, but not always. I like to write in different settings. Actually, I can write anywhere — at the beach, at a noisy Starbucks or cafe, bookstores, on a plane. I am constantly writing in my head, thinking of new stories or working out new scenes for projects I am currently working on.
3) Do you have a special place you steal away to that is a particular source of inspiration?
One of my favorite places is a hidden strip of bay in Belmont Shore. It is nicknamed “Horny Corner” by the locals. In fact, I write about the place in my novel Monogamy Sucks. I like to sit against the small concrete wall facing the bay and write. I wrote a lot of the chapters in Monogamy Sucks while sitting at “Horny Corner”. I guess there is a sort of fitting symbolism in that.
Santa Barbara, California is also a very inspirational place for me. I consider it my writer’s retreat. I like to go there by myself every few months to get away and focus only on my writing. The place rejuvenates my writer’s soul.
4) Do you feel that the California beach town lifestyle lends itself to swinging?
No, not necessarily. I think the California beach town lifestyle that I love in Belmont Shore in Long Beach, Huntington Beach, Santa Monica have the reputation of being swinging towns, and there is some truth to it. But swingers come from everywhere. I met swingers from Riverside, Ontario, Bakersfield, Claremont, Torrance to name a few cities. There are swingers in every town, city, and state and in every country. Swinging is a state of mind, not a destination.
5) You mentioned in another interview that your novel “Monogamy Sucks” is loosely based on personal experiences, but you “enhanced” the experiences with your main characters uninhibited thoughts. Isn’t it still a reflection of you untethered by societal norms? Free to express what actually goes through a man’s mind while meeting and sleeping with a woman?
Well, my intention was to reveal through my character Jake Dalmas what I believe a lot men think about during casual sexual encounters with women. I don’t think this has always been explored in fiction. I wanted the scenes to hold nothing back in their explicit nature so it would make my character’s sarcastic, and even sardonic comments about what he was going through even more powerful and controversial. I wanted to bring the readers into the male mind as a way to explore sexual myths about monogamy, marriage, swinging, desire and potency. My character chooses to be untethered from social norms because of his unhappiness with monogamy and conventional relationships. I believe a growing number of people in our society share his dissatisfaction.
6) In the excerpt, your main character, Jake Dalmas, suggests that the drive for physical intimacy is so strong at times that he is willing to put aside his “standards” for the sake of fulfilling his desires. Do you see this as a common dilemma for many men?
Oh yes. Lust is a very powerful thing. It can make us men (and women, too!) do things we could later regret. In my case, the regret was only short-lived. Lust was only one of the factors that let me on my own erotic journey into the swinging lifestyle. But when I participated in a regrettable experience, I could always write about it later. So in the end I have no regrets. However, I detail the pitfalls of unchecked lust quite effectively in my novel through my character’s commentary.
7) You are clear that monogamy doesn’t work for you personally, but in our discussions you said that you feel swinging can strengthen a relationship. Would you care to elaborate?
Swinging is not for everybody, but neither is monogamy. The swingers I met during the research and writing for my novel told me that expanding their sexual lives through swinging did improve their relationships. They no longer felt the need to stray or cheat. If they had sex with someone else, their partner was right there to share the experience with them. Everything is out in the open. No sneaking around or lying to the other person. They are realists in dealing with the natural sexual boredom that settles in long time relationships and marriages. The thrill of the new as I call it in my novel is powerful. It takes down a lot relationships and marriages. Always has. Yet these swingers still loved each other, had kids and stayed together. A lot of swinger couples also stressed to me that if they didn’t open up their sexual lives, they probably wouldn’t have stayed together. They were already cheating before they started swinging and were fighting about it. Now, one couple told me all they do now is fight about money not jealousy.
It is apparent that monogamy isn’t working for a lot people. I mean just look at the headlines. So what’s wrong with discussing alternatives.
8) Do you ever see yourself moving away from the swinging lifestyle permanently?
I would hardly consider myself a full time swinger, but I think I’ll always keep an open mind toward the swinging lifestyle. All I know is that monogamy doesn’t work for me, which led me to write this novel. Swingers and swinging still fascinates me as much as it ever has.
9) Where will “Monogamy Sucks” be available for purchase?
Monogamy Sucks is available as an e-book by Lazy Day Publishing — www.lazydaypub.com My novel will also be available at Amazon.com, Barnes & Noble.com, Borders.com and other online retail sites.
Follow George on Twitter: @gpwriter @jakedalmas
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